Tips to Avoid Divorce (Before and After the Wedding)

 Posted on March 07, 2019 in Divorce

Getting married and starting a family is ingrained in Western cultures, especially in the United States. By the age of 50, 90 percent of people have been married at least once. Due to the high percentage of individuals who decide to get married, there is also a large divorce rate. According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, divorce rates are not as high as many think. 3.2 people out of every 1000 individuals go through divorce. Divorce rates may be decreasing; however, they will never become obsolete. Continue reading to learn different ways to avoid divorce whether you are on the path to your wedding or have already said “I do."

Avoiding Divorce

Love Is Not Ageless: Studies have repeatedly shown that getting married as a teenager is extremely risky. This is not only due to the lack of relationship experience but also the lack of financial security. Money problems can bring even the best relationships under extreme duress. After a certain point, divorce rates begin to increase as age does. Statistics show that the best age window to tie the knot is between 28 and 32.

Power Dynamics: One of the most important aspects of any relationships is equality. No one wants to feel like they have zero control over their romantic life. This sense of power can be in terms of finances, decision making, and many other aspects of a relationship. It is crucial to find a balance to maintain an equal power dynamic between you and your partner.

Communication Is Key: This is a pretty universal piece of advice that often gets lost in translation. It is easy to respond to your partner’s rude comment with an equally insulting one. Instead of nitpicking each other and creating a cycle of bad attitudes, it is better to be upfront with your partner about your feelings and emotions.

Change Is Not Always for the Better: Studies have shown that opposites attract meaning that a person’s unique qualities are what draws you in. However, once the “newness” of a relationship wears off, many of these quirks begin to lose their luster. One must remember that trying to “change” your partner is a recipe for disaster. You may spend most of your time together but this does not mean that you should begin to become each other.

Let Freedom Ring: Some people feel the need to be the source of happiness in their partner’s life, While they often have good intentions, this desire can result in feeling trapped. Maintaining your individuality and freedom is essential in every healthy relationship.

Contact a Kane County Family Lawyer for Help

If you find yourself constantly at odds with your spouse and unable to make amends, divorce may be the best option for both of your happiness. Some relationships are repairable while others are past the breaking point. Contact an experienced Kane County divorce attorney for a free consultation at 630-584-5550.

Sources:

https://www.apa.org/topics/divorce/

https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/fastats/marriage-divorce.htm

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/meet-catch-and-keep/201606/these-are-the-best-and-worst-ages-get-married

https://medium.com/personal-growth/how-to-avoid-divorce-and-improve-your-relationship-2ad943d96e98